So I binged the entirety of How To Build a Sex Room last night and this one scene just cracked me up
The designer’s at a western leather/tack store looking for supplies to make a rustic-style sex swing and turns to one of the store employees for advice, which initially goes about as amusingly as you would expect
So then she pulls up some pictures to give him an idea of what she needs
And he’s Immediately like
The professional disgust, I’m living
… yeah, that tracks. I know so many crafting professionals who would be like that.
‘Professional expresses strong well-founded opinions on something he only just learned about,’ gotta be one of my favorite genres
I’m making an effort to use Joanne Rowling’s biological name, and not the ridiculous fabrication she devised to sound more like a man and sell more books
Unfortunately for Ms. Rowling I live in the US, which does not recognize defamation judgments from other countries unless they meet the standards of free speech and expression established in US law, which UK libel laws do not. Sad!
Psychology textbook diagrams never cease to amaze me
ok y'all this isn’t a psych textbook gaslighting you into thinking it’s normal and ok for your boss to yell at you, it’s specifically about understanding that other people’s treatment of you is usually more about them than you.
If your boss is pissy with you, it’s absolutely more healthy to understand that behavior as a reflection of his mental state rather than of your worth as an employee.
It’s not a psych textbook’s job to advise you how to improve your workplace or say what is/isn’t acceptable treatment by a boss. It’s an example of detaching your own self-worth from how other people treat you.
^^THIS!
In fact, if you let yourself think of other people’s treatment as a reflection on YOU more than it is on THEM, it can prevent you from getting things done.
Or, in other words,
ok, im rb'ing this again because this actually helped me finally be able to take advantage of cognitive restructuring in a way i’ve struggled to do for a long time. Ive been able to get to the my boss was having a bad day part, but i’ve always struggled to use that mental change to do something that would improve the situation. but because of this diagram, i THINK ive got it figured out. Here’s a rough explanation of how I interperet this.
Real life example:
Boss yelling: My mom is snapping at me, calling me “disrespectful” no matter how I speak to her, and getting mad at me for having missing assignments He was having a bad day: She’s stressed due to my grandma being in the hospital He shouldn’t take it out on me: just because she’s stressed doesn’t mean she gets to be mean to me. Unionize: I advocate for myself, saying that I’m not being disrespectful and that it’s okay to have missing assignments because I’m doing my best Fuck his wife: I am unapologetically proud of myself for what i manage to do in a day, especially if my mom disapproves of it or doesn’t view it as productive, as my own little “fuck you” to her.
End result: no depression.
This actually works and its amazing. Thanks to the meme side of tumblr for accidentally developing a highly effective method for coping with people who treat you like shit
i hope you realise i have immediately added ‘unionise! fuck his wife! no depression!’ to my mantras for living
I dreamt that people found out that tumblr posts had a secret hidden text field that you normally couldn’t put anything into that was called a post’s “wungle text”, and it wasn’t normally displayed in any way, but someone made a browser extension that allowed you to write and view a post’s wungle by flipping it over like an index card. The user’s picture and name and all that would be backwards, but the wungle post looked otherwise like a normal post, though empty unless the author had written something in there. It worked in reblogs too.
People were using it for jokes, and a bunch of seemingly boring and innocuous posts got really popular with funny wungle sides.
It looked kinda like this:
The post would be the same height vertically, it would just be a ton of blank space on the wungle side, so if you wrote more text on the wungle than you did on the post itself, it would just overflow and get hidden under the other UI elements.
The next time you’ve got a friend over, set an example and put your phone on the table, visibly there but not too far away, to let them know that you’re intentionally present, not distracted, your attention is undivided and you want to be fully focused on being right there to spend time with them. Don’t mention it or draw attention to this, you’re not doing this to be preachy or wanting praise, you just want to be a good friend and you value your friend’s time. Ideally, your friend will either notice this or even pick it up without conscious notice, and set their own phone aside on the table as well.
Then, when your friend takes a minute to go to the bathroom, grab your phone and take a photo of your friend’s phone sitting on your table. Do not touch it, and put your own phone back exactly where it was immediately once you’ve got the picture. Carry on with whatever you two were doing.
Once your time is up and your friend has left for home, wait for a good 15 minutes or so, for them to either get back home or be well on their way there. Text your friend, “hey, you forgot your phone”, and send them the photo you took of their phone on your table. Set a stopwatch running from the moment your friend sees the message.
Measure how many seconds it takes for your friend to process this and tell you to go fuck yourself.
ALT
